I have seen too many girls go through heart breaks and liars ( besides my own experiences) enough to understand the course bad relationships take, especially in the end. I'm sure there are some I haven't heard, but I know when a woman gets into a bad relationship, it can almost be sensed. It may even start off amazing, but once it turns sour, its seems like something is off.
Once you, or your friend get to that point, it can feel impossible to stop it. When its your friend you just want to shake her and rescue her, but you know you can't. You've been in her shoes before, and there is nothing you can physically do to control the situation. It just has to run its course.
The course ran as so...
It started as the best thing ever. It was different this time. He was so much more charming than all the other guys. It was the connection you guys had; the chemistry. The deep conversations and the way he looked at you. He was so easy to talk to and he opened up to you about real life issues. The birds seemed to fly more gracefully. The air of Southern California seemed so much less contaminated. You felt more alive than ever before. It was perfect. The way it should be.
Then everything changed. At first his suspicious acts came with excuses. Those excuses were there to cover up the truth, or just make the truth seem innocent. For example, you got a phone call from a girl who said she was his girlfriend -out of nowhere! She told you to stay away from him and blah blah blah. So you asked him about it and his excuse was, "My "ex" stole my phone and called you". "Ex", right? Then you believed it . How could this great guy lie about something like that? You think, "she must be another crazy ex-girlfriend. Poor guy, the girl is crazy. She just doesn't leave him alone." At this point, the suspiciousness will just get ignored and tucked away. Well, for the moment.
This keeps happening. He keeps lying and even if you blatantly catch him, you ignore that too. You go crying to your friend and then go back to him because you know he really is a great guy- when you're together everything is amazing. As a friend, one just has to be there to understand and let her make her own decisions. You can't force her to do anything because you know what its like.
When its over, we see that it was all happening, just as suspected. We feel played, but worse than that we blame ourselves for what we think we "let" a man do to us. Even if it was persistence that had us going back, we were so drawn to the allure that it combated our sense of logic. Being too emotional may be a contributor for some women, but many people get played. It is exciting when someone provides that enthralling mystery combined with extreme emotions. A bi-polar love.
POINT BEING! :
Do not let anyone make you feel worthless. Life happens and we all get drawn into temptation whether it be a relationship, or something else. We all have given in at one point. Its exciting. Its different. Its rebellious, even. We are only human. And women, we're humans, too! We make mistakes, or feel fooled, but we can't go around beating ourselves up about that.
At the same time, we don't have to let it happen again. Learn from the past. Holding onto it can hold you back. First, forgive yourself, forgive the person, then move forward. You are going to be somebody because you are amazing. No difficulties in your life can define who you are. You will be the one to create who you are and who you become.
You'll be more than okay, you're going to be stronger.
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